Are your actions in your relationship helping you or hurting you?

We all want to be special to our partner- to feel important, to be desired, ultimately to be loved and secured. These needs can lead us to do or say many irrational things such as fighting, pursuit, insult and even bullying a partner which ultimately damages the relationship and decreases the chances of feeling loved and secure. We can work …

10 Tips to have a more Constructive Argument

Arguments and discussions can lead to ugly places.  Having an arguments is necessary in order to achieve solutions at times.  In my previous Blog Destructive Arguments I mentioned what NOT to do during an argument.  Here are 10 Tips that can help you have more constructive arguments and reach understanding: Set aside a quiet time to discuss the problem Take …

Destructive Arguments

Arguing is a normal part of relationships, given that we all have different opinions and views about the world around us.  However, arguing can become so frequent and intense that it seems like the there is no hope for a relationship.  Dr. John Gottman, a recognized expert in the field of couples therapy and psychology describes four prominent negative interactions …