Self-esteem is the belief that we have about ourselves, those qualities, skills, ways of feeling or thinking that we attribute to ourselves, our “self-image”. Self-esteem is the assessment we make of ourselves on the basis of feelings and experiences that we have incorporated throughout life. We feel smart or fools, capable or incapable, we like each other or not. This self-assessment is very important, since it can depend largely in our personal potential and our achievements in life. Thus, people with healthy self-esteem feel good about themselves, appreciate their value and are proud of their skills, abilities and accomplishments. People with low self-esteem feel that they will appeal to anyone, no one will accept them or are not good at anything.
Two things in particular cause low self-esteem, how we see others treat us and how we see ourselves. Self-esteem can be very bad off when someone whose acceptance we value (such as a parent or partner) put us down or belittle us constantly.
Everyone has problems with self-esteem at certain times of life. The good news is that the image we have of ourselves is changing over time, self-esteem is not something fixed and immovable for life. So, if you feel your self-esteem is not as high as you’d like, you can improve it.
Over time, hear a negative inner voice can damage a person’s self-esteem as much as if the criticism came from outside. Some people are so used to follow their inner critic that they can not even realize when they’re doing it. Unrealistic expectations can also affect a person’s self-esteem. People have an image of what they want to become (who they think it should be). The image of the ideal person is different for everyone. For example, some people admire athletic skills or other beauty. People who see themselves as having the qualities they admire such as the ability to make friends easily, often have high self-esteem.
Why is self-esteem important?
The feelings we have toward ourselves influence how we live our lives. People who feel they are loved and appreciated (in other words, people with high self-esteem) have better relationships. They are more likely to ask for help and support from friends and family when they need it. People who believe they can achieve their goals and solve problems tend to have more success in life. Having good self-esteem allows you to accept yourself and live life to the full.
Typical behaviors of a person with low self esteem are: Inconsistency, distrust, irresponsibility, irrationality, deadpan, disharmony, dependence, inconsistency, and stiffness among others. In contrast, a persona with high self-esteem can have the following behaviors: Consistency, confidence, responsibility, expressiveness, rationality, harmony, autonomy, productivity, perseverance, flexibility and more.
If you want to improve your self-esteem, here are some tips to get started:
- Stop having negative thoughts about yourself.
- Make your goal achievement rather than perfection.
- Make goals realistias (clear and specific)
- Consider mistakes as learning opportunities.
- Try new things.
- Identify what you can change and what you can not.
- Set goals.
- Take pride in your opinions and ideas.
- Trust in yourself
- Avoid generalizations
If you have problems with your self-esteem and have tried everything in your power to improve it without results, it is time to talk to a professional about it.
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